Nothing will kill a conversation more quickly than ego and if you want your ex back by your side, you better be ready to check your ego at the door. After all, you are the one saying “I want my ex back” and therefore, you better be ready to make some changes in the coming days.
If the title of this article somehow reminded you of how your ego might have played a role in your breakup, dropping that ego of yours might be far more critical than for most lonely souls hoping to accomplish the same objective as you.
When you have the opportunity to speak to your ex, let your ex speak his or her mind and do not interrupt trying to defend yourself. How many times have you gotten in a fight with your significant other because your ego wouldn’t allow you to listen to your ex’s critique? For once, let your ex finish what he or she is trying to say and do not interject with your own opinion unless it is absolutely a misunderstanding. Listening, in other words, allowing your lover to speak his or her mind will always bring a better outcome.
We all have egos and we are all egocentric to certain extent, but that should go out the window when you love someone. Don’t make the mistake of relating the lack of ego with self-loathing. If you let ego drive your love life, then the relationship is no more special than your relationship to your co-worker or your relationship with the cashier at your local supermarket. When you are in love, you are ready to give everything in return for nothing and that automatically means there’s no ego involved. Mutual respect, compromise, sacrifice, and all the rest that make a relationship work come when as a couple. As of now, you are back at courting your ex girlfriend or boyfriend again and there is no place for ego.
No one likes being critiqued or corrected and it’s in our nature to react negatively when we feel that we are being patronized. Checking ones ego doesn’t happen overnight and to illustrate that point, just try to remember the last time you met someone who took criticism with grace. Most people know or remember couple of people with such trait at the most.
Make it a habit to absorb the good and the bad. You can always say something but you can never take back the words you’ve already uttered. Drop your ego and listen to your ex, let him or her know that this time you are there to listen and understand.
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