How in the world do you win your ex back when he or she already has a new boyfriend or a new girlfriend? The answer is… It’s complicated. I wish I can tell you that’s it’s easy but I’d be lying then, this one is going to be tough.
Because every situation is different, I try to give different advices depending on the situation that I create on my articles. Let’s divide this into two different scenarios, one in which your ex started dating someone new not long after the break up and the second situation being long after the break up.
Let’s look at the first scenario in which your ex started dating not long after the break up. This could mean that your boyfriend or girlfriend felt very liberated by the break up, quite simply they feel very happy about the breakup. However, it could also mean that the person he or she is dating is just a rebound date. If you ex was desperately hoping to break up with you, this will further complicate things which will mean more work for you.
But what if your ex was in need of a rebound boyfriend or girlfriend? This is good for you and you probably should not interfere with this process as you could inject some passion where there was none. Imagine this, an ex-boyfriend or an ex-girlfriend gets in the middle of a casual relationship. What do you think happens? You’ve just given your ex and the rebound a little drama, the passion that the two lacked. Needless to say you could say goodbye to your chance to getting your ex back.
To get your ex back in the first scenario, not only will you have to work hard to bring about some significant positive changes in you, but it will also require that you have a keen sense of timing. You wait too long and your ex moves on without you completely with or without the rebound. On the other hand, if you get impatient and you don’t give your ex enough time on his or her own, your ex will never have you back.
If the two of you have truly been in love at least when you were together, then at the moment there’s no one who knows your ex lover better than you. Is your ex known to take his or her sweet time to take anger or resentment out of their system? Is he or she impatient? Depending on the answers you may have to wait a few weeks or maybe even few months. Don’t give in to your desperation and convince yourself to call you ex without giving him or her the time they require to even think about giving you a second chance.
The general rule of thumb, bring about some changes in you that you know for a fact must have pleased your ex when the two of you were together. Do give your ex more time than you think it’s required, people often call their ex too early out of desperation. Finally, be truthful and appeal to your ex how much you want him or her back.
I haven’t really discussed much about the second scenario because it will require that you do the same as the first scenario but with some extras which I’ll discuss here. You see, if your ex started dating again long after the breakup, there is a good chance your ex secretly wanted you back from day one after the breakup.
You’ve left your ex on his or her own for too long and you might have given them the time needed to move on. But if you appeal to your ex again the heart will remember, what the brain so hard tried to suppress, your ex’s heart will remind them why it took so long for them to start dating again. I strongly believe that you are in a better place than you’d be in the first case scenario.
Make the necessary changes and don’t hesitate to compromise on the matters that are important to your ex. Once your ex falls in love with you again, you will be able to revert some of those compromises because your ex will understand that you had to go far and beyond to get him or her back. For now, concentrate on getting your ex back and just do the things necessary to accomplish that.
To give yourself the best shot at winning your ex back, I recommend you give “The Ex Girlfriend Guru” or “Ex Boyfriend Guru” a try. However, if you feel that you would like to move on and start seeing someone new, there’s a very pressure free method of doing it. Try Match.com for the duration of its 7day free trial and just try to have fun with it.