I’ve watched plenty of my friends go through breakups in my life and I know how devastating it can be to lose someone you love. Sometimes you feel like you will be fine on your own, but the pain hits you like a locomotive not long after the breakup. There is nothing worse than losing someone you love by some dumb mistake.

It took 5 friends and countless nights of consoling to bring back my good friend Sara from her binge eating and her “my life is over” crazy act. I know how you feel right now and I’m sorry for you, but leave the feeling sorry to me. For you, the last thing you want is to feel sorry for yourself because that kind of attitude will lead you to make the wrong move and completely ruin your chance get back with your ex boyfriend.

There are times when you have to go with your instincts, but believe me this isn’t it. Most people do not make good decision under pressure and it is best you avoid decision making under duress. I want you to clear your head for a moment and give your full attention to this article. I am going to need you to do a few things and it’s important that you follow them word for word. So here goes nothing.

Inner Strength – I need you to be strong now more than ever. I will tell you right now boys, men, take your pick, they hate girls who are clingy.

If you know a guy who goes after girls who appeal with pity, stay as far away from him as possible. He is the biggest loser you have ever met and ever will. I promise you that.

Too many women have tried to get their ex boyfriends back by throwing themselves at their ex begging for second chance. I hope you do not need me to explain how that story ends. The right people, the good people are attracted by positive, confident, and strong individuals. If you know that you have the right guy, then you should know your strength and confidence will be the key to
winning your ex back.

Have a Plan – If you haven’t already turned to your ice cream and gone back to feeling sorry for yourself, I believe you have what it takes to achieve what you set out to do. But you still might be wondering where you will gather the strength and confidence to get him back. Here’s a simple rule to the motivation. You can either chin-up and give yourself the best chance to be happy once again with the love of your life, or you can go back to pitying yourself and ending up with a loser.

The point is this. You have to stay strong and positive because much of what happens to you is heavily influenced by your attitude. Nothing in life is predefined and if you truly embrace that idea, it should give you the inspiration to stay strong in all situations.

So why have a plan? You cannot draw a map to get into a person’s heart, but it is good to envision your future with someone you love and soak yourself with some positive energy from a possible future. Plan the things you hope to do with your man once he is back with you, imagine how wonderful it would be to feel his touch again and be able to kiss him once again. Plan these things in your mind and keep envisioning a positive future.

Just look at the people around you who are successful in life. I’m not talking about people who had success in business or had achieved some self-serving merit. The people who have found true happiness in life are people displaying positivity with happiness, confidence, strength, energy, or all of them together. They say “good things happen to good people”, you’d be wise to embrace the idea.

Do Something – This one should be self-explanatory. You must find something to keep you busy, something that will occupy your mind until you get your bearing. This is your chance to try some things that you couldn’t do when you were in a relationship. You can do things purely for fun or take this opportunity to improve yourself. Whatever you do I encourage you to keep busy and I promise you it will make everything else so much easier.

Everything that I have asked you to do so far is for you and you only. Why do you think is that? I mean, it does not ever involve your ex boyfriend either directly or indirectly. The reason is simple. You are letting your actions do the talking for you.

What do you think goes on in your ex boyfriend’s mind when he hears that you are doing better than ever, happy as you can be, and this is all happening after the breakup. I’m sure he is not hoping for you to be miserable, but at the same token, what does it say about him when his ex is doing so much better after he broke up with. Do you think this will generate some curiosity? I think it will.

When you feel better about yourself, you will look better, do things better, and be better at just about everything you do. Men are very, very weak to visual cues. The fitter you, your stylish fashion and haircut, and the way you carry yourself. I’d say this improved version of you will raise some eyebrows and it will have him second guess his decision to breakup with you.

It’s not a bad thing that he wants you now that you have changed for the better. In fact, this is what you hope for. I have already told you that you should stay as far away as possible from men who seek out girls who beg for love. It’s a good thing that your ex boyfriend is attracted to this improved you and not the self-pitying, ice cream tub loving, self-destructive you.

To sum it up, if you want to get your ex boyfriend back, do what’s best for you and I assure you he will want you back and want you back bad. I understand that this is a difficult time for you and you may not be fully onboard with my tactics to win back lost love. But I want you to believe in yourself, you can do this the right way with your self-respect intact and have him both love you and respect you as deservingly.

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First, you must decide whether the relationship is worth saving. While almost every relationship can be saved with hard work, both parties must decide that they want to make it work. Because if a partner has opted out and doesn’t want to opt back in, there is little that can be done.

Many people stay in a relationship because it is convenient or remain in a marriage because of the children. But that is not enough. How to save a relationship starts with a commitment by both parties that the relationship is worth saving.

Next, you must pinpoint the problem or problems in a relationship. One of the biggest problems in how to save a relationship is that people believe the symptoms of the problem are the problem itself.

For instance, many people think an affair is a problem that causes break ups. In truth, the affair is a symptom of a deeper problem. For instance, a lack of true intimacy can lead to a straying spouse. While most people look at the affair as the problem, the underlying cause of the affair was the lack of intimacy in the primary relationship. If you do not deal with the lack of intimacy, you might be able to keep another affair from starting through the use of guilt, but another problem (for instance pornography) could pop up because you haven’t dealt with the core issue.

When you start to deal with core issues rather than symptoms, you can save the relationship.

Once you have identified the core problems, you can begin to share your thoughts. This means both verbalizing your own feelings and listening to your partner’s concerns. Hold your partner’s hand when you are talking about your problems as a signal that you want to reconnect even when your emotions are swirling. When your partner talks about things that hurt you remember that he or she is not doing it because he or she wants to hurt you. Rather it is because they want to improve the relationship.

Once you have detailed the problems in your relationship, create an action plan to solve them. Then, take concrete steps on your action plan. If you don’t spend time together like you used to, plan a date night every week. Take turns coming up with creative ways to spend an evening together each Wednesday. If not communicating is the problem, commit to spending 20 minutes before going to bed just talking to one another. And, then do it.

Finally, you should realize that saving a relationship is an ongoing process. You are going to take two steps forward only to take one step back. There is going to be both laughter and tears going forward. Be quick to apologize and slow to blame.

Is your relationship worth saving? If so, read everything on this site, Get your boyfriend back and Get your girlfriend back. However, if you think you it’s better that you move on and you are ready to start a new relationship, browse through local single’s profile for free at Match.com. Match.com 7-day Free Trial

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