I’ve watched plenty of my friends go through breakups in my life and I know how devastating it can be to lose someone you love. Sometimes you feel like you will be fine on your own, but the pain hits you like a locomotive not long after the breakup. There is nothing worse than losing someone you love by some dumb mistake.

It took 5 friends and countless nights of consoling to bring back my good friend Sara from her binge eating and her “my life is over” crazy act. I know how you feel right now and I’m sorry for you, but leave the feeling sorry to me. For you, the last thing you want is to feel sorry for yourself because that kind of attitude will lead you to make the wrong move and completely ruin your chance get back with your ex boyfriend.

There are times when you have to go with your instincts, but believe me this isn’t it. Most people do not make good decision under pressure and it is best you avoid decision making under duress. I want you to clear your head for a moment and give your full attention to this article. I am going to need you to do a few things and it’s important that you follow them word for word. So here goes nothing.

Inner Strength – I need you to be strong now more than ever. I will tell you right now boys, men, take your pick, they hate girls who are clingy.

If you know a guy who goes after girls who appeal with pity, stay as far away from him as possible. He is the biggest loser you have ever met and ever will. I promise you that.

Too many women have tried to get their ex boyfriends back by throwing themselves at their ex begging for second chance. I hope you do not need me to explain how that story ends. The right people, the good people are attracted by positive, confident, and strong individuals. If you know that you have the right guy, then you should know your strength and confidence will be the key to
winning your ex back.

Have a Plan – If you haven’t already turned to your ice cream and gone back to feeling sorry for yourself, I believe you have what it takes to achieve what you set out to do. But you still might be wondering where you will gather the strength and confidence to get him back. Here’s a simple rule to the motivation. You can either chin-up and give yourself the best chance to be happy once again with the love of your life, or you can go back to pitying yourself and ending up with a loser.

The point is this. You have to stay strong and positive because much of what happens to you is heavily influenced by your attitude. Nothing in life is predefined and if you truly embrace that idea, it should give you the inspiration to stay strong in all situations.

So why have a plan? You cannot draw a map to get into a person’s heart, but it is good to envision your future with someone you love and soak yourself with some positive energy from a possible future. Plan the things you hope to do with your man once he is back with you, imagine how wonderful it would be to feel his touch again and be able to kiss him once again. Plan these things in your mind and keep envisioning a positive future.

Just look at the people around you who are successful in life. I’m not talking about people who had success in business or had achieved some self-serving merit. The people who have found true happiness in life are people displaying positivity with happiness, confidence, strength, energy, or all of them together. They say “good things happen to good people”, you’d be wise to embrace the idea.

Do Something – This one should be self-explanatory. You must find something to keep you busy, something that will occupy your mind until you get your bearing. This is your chance to try some things that you couldn’t do when you were in a relationship. You can do things purely for fun or take this opportunity to improve yourself. Whatever you do I encourage you to keep busy and I promise you it will make everything else so much easier.

Everything that I have asked you to do so far is for you and you only. Why do you think is that? I mean, it does not ever involve your ex boyfriend either directly or indirectly. The reason is simple. You are letting your actions do the talking for you.

What do you think goes on in your ex boyfriend’s mind when he hears that you are doing better than ever, happy as you can be, and this is all happening after the breakup. I’m sure he is not hoping for you to be miserable, but at the same token, what does it say about him when his ex is doing so much better after he broke up with. Do you think this will generate some curiosity? I think it will.

When you feel better about yourself, you will look better, do things better, and be better at just about everything you do. Men are very, very weak to visual cues. The fitter you, your stylish fashion and haircut, and the way you carry yourself. I’d say this improved version of you will raise some eyebrows and it will have him second guess his decision to breakup with you.

It’s not a bad thing that he wants you now that you have changed for the better. In fact, this is what you hope for. I have already told you that you should stay as far away as possible from men who seek out girls who beg for love. It’s a good thing that your ex boyfriend is attracted to this improved you and not the self-pitying, ice cream tub loving, self-destructive you.

To sum it up, if you want to get your ex boyfriend back, do what’s best for you and I assure you he will want you back and want you back bad. I understand that this is a difficult time for you and you may not be fully onboard with my tactics to win back lost love. But I want you to believe in yourself, you can do this the right way with your self-respect intact and have him both love you and respect you as deservingly.

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You have to think back to early on in your relationship and try to remember how much effort you put into your looks. Men are often referred to as “visual creatures”, but women are not much different as far as enjoying what is aesthetically pleasing. Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder, but the general meaning of beauty is sort of imprinted on us and being in a dating relationship does require you to look your best for your partner.

Dating a person for a long time often has one or both party in the relationship to “let go” of themselves. Your partner may still love you but he or she does not lust over you anymore. You’ve grown your beer belly, you dress up only for some special occasion, you have protruding nose hair, and you dress up like a character out of an 80s sitcom… should I continue? These things affect relationships negatively and it has nothing to do with being shallow.

If you’ve “let go” of yourself during your relationship with your ex, then you should know that it had played a role in your breakup, perhaps much more than you’d think. Don’t be mad at your ex for making your appearance an issue, rather you should be mad at yourself for not doing anything to fix the problem. Because you could have done something, looking beautiful is as simple as staying healthy and keeping yourself attractive is more of a habit to make yourself look good than something you are born with. How attractive and beautiful do you think Brad Pitt might look if he had gained an extra 50 pounds and was wearing a fresh prince outfit?

If you are having relationship problems, think appearance first and make sure you are looking your best for your partner. If you’ve broken up already and you are searching for answers to how to win your ex back, then think appearance as well and make drastic changes to your looks. It will do wonders for your self-esteem which is crucial if you plan to win your ex back and you will learn that changes are the key to winning back lost love.

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This is where showing appreciation comes into play, because most couples that have been together for over a year stop showing appreciation towards their partner. Showing appreciation makes people feel like they matter, that they are heard and seen. Little uneventful things like saying thank you, hugs and kisses, one can easily overlook them as relationship ages.

If you are struggling with your relationship, then maybe it’s time you look back and ask yourself if you’ve been showing the appreciation your partner deserves. If you’ve broken up with your ex or you’ve been dumped by your ex, you should ask the same question and it’s perhaps the time to make some drastic changes if you want to win your ex back.

It’s not so much that your partner is seeking attention or expecting credit for what he or she may do for you. But it’s about acknowledging your partners role in your life, it’s about letting it show that your ex matters to you, it’s as basic as a child hoping for an approval from a parent. We all need and want to be appreciated. You start getting lazy with showing appreciation to your lover and you will make your lover feel less and less important to you.

If you want to win your ex back or even if you want to start a new relationship, you will need to learn to appreciate your partner better. Good days or bad days, you have to say thank you when it’s due. Think of the time when you just started to date your partner and just remember how easy it was to say thank you, how often you would kiss him or her, and just how effortless everything happened.

In a relationship, you have to catch yourself when you start to slip and if you’ve slipped far enough that your relationship has split, then it’s time you get back to the basic. It may be what ultimately helps you win your ex back or it may just be the missing piece of the big puzzle, so make a habit of showing appreciation to your lover.

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